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You Did Not Become a Loser When You Lose But When You Lose Trust on Yourself (and People You Love~d)

This will be a rant post. To some people it might be inspiring, to some (or one), it might pissed them off. Either way, I am still writing it. 🙂 And if you want some interview tips, it will be in here too.

Just now I received a call.

When people asked me what my plan is after graduation, I dilly dally a bit. Its hard for me to give a specific answer that will be true. One part because I am bonded with P*t****s, second was because working for a salary was not a priority for me. This has been my response for years. I don’t want to sound arrogant but at the same time I don’t want to sound hopeless, so I will always say, “I am not sure, let’s wait and see”.

Even, when people who deserve to know asked. That’s my answer.

But deep inside, I am confident of myself. Whatever happened, happened because I choose to not because I have to.

Some people might consider me a loser at that time (actually, maybe not some. Maybe only one. But still it does not matter). Why I am loser? Because given the circumstances, it is HIGHLY UNLIKELY P*t****s will call me to serve the bond. And because that person thought I am one inch away of becoming a loser, I was ditched.

That person has the point. Although I am capable of providing at that time (I just don’t have VIOS~a major thing it turned out) and stable, it does not matter because loser will have no future.

However, I have a trump card in my pocket. I know what I am doing, and I believe in myself and the value I am providing. Never a moment, ever I doubted myself. Never.

What’s the phone call about? I was called to serve up the bond.

So much so for people who have write-off me. I don’t blame it on them though. Because, to prove how worthy I am, I will show you how even after I put myself in a more disadvantageous situation, but I still finish first.

Hence the interview tip.

How to Still Be Hired Even If You Left Your Resume at Home, Come Late for the Interview & Have Committed a Few Other “Sins” That Make You Un-Hire-Able*

*if there is such word.

Yes. Despite doing all that (you can partly say I purposely tanked the interview), I still was hired.

Everything seems going as planned. Even the interviewer has less than favorable first impression on me. First because I filled my form wrongly (this sin is unplanned, I admit) and because there is something on my file that put me at a disadvantage compared to other candidates.

However, the plan went awry when the interviewer asked me the first question.

That question smack right at the core of my belief. The question challenges me.

And I be myself. I don’t seek to impress the panel interviewer, I am completely honest, truthful, open, transparent and to a point brutal. I even admit of owning a company (they indeed say it is a conflict of interest).

But I am grateful that the panel interviewer did impressed with me and recommended me. They might see the hunger and the potential in this young man a particular person did not. Although initially this is not what I planned for, but as this call up showed in my life at this point of time, I believe it is for some reason. So I will take it.

Later, I read in someone else blog (we share the same trait & almost the same story), to ace in the interview you must;

a) Make the interviewer sip a glass of water a few time
b) Make him/her nod
c) Make the interviewer loosen his tie
d) Make the interviewer remove his spectacles

I don’t know it at that time. But all the above happened.

So, here’s my tip during the interview (Ummar, this is for job interview only. Jangan buat waktu interview scholarship nanti!)

1) Be yourself
2) Feel like you don’t need the job

A lot of candidates (which I will not elaborate what they do) always appear so desperate for a job at an interview. They sweat, they said “all the right stuff”, and give generic and vague scripted answers. When you do this, you did not let the true you, the worthy you, the passionate you inside out. The interviewer is looking for that quality. Unleash that passion out to land your dream job.

That’s my tip and that’s how I accidentally land other people’s dream job. To others reading this, I am sorry, I don’t want to be arrogant but I am having a little “I TOLD YOU SO” moment. 🙂

To everyone, I present to you IF, by Rudyard Kipling. The most important part in bold.

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,

And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream–and not make dreams your master,
If you can think–and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ‘em up with worn-out tools:

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And–which is more–you’ll be a Man, my son!

My last word. If you are going for an interview, be yourself. Don’t be your desperate self. For that person who ever doubt me, path of forgiveness is still open. You know what you should do. To all others reading this, that poem I dedicate to you, hope it can be your inspiration! 🙂

Never a Doubter

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1 Comment

  1. nur

    u were never a doubter. i know that.:) and yes, the poem is inspiring.

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